“In this generation what every woman knows is the value of a smart well-groomed appearance. The modern woman is demanding… she wants her clothes to fit well… she loves fine fabrics… but she is resourceful and practical. ” I found this old pamphlet when I was reorganizing my studio. At first, I thought is was kind of funny. The idea of the ad on the back targeting woman because their #1 and #2 pastimes were reading and sewing was so far from today’s reality that I didn’t even know what to think about it. As I kept sorting my studio, my mind kept going back to the idea of a woman wearing fitted clothes. Don’t get me wrong, I am by no means advocating that women should go back to wearing dresses, petticoats and stockings every where they go, or not leaving the house without her hat and matching purse and gloves, but maybe we should reconsider some of the things we do wear. I personally right now am not all that happy with my appearance. I need to lose around 3o pounds, and I don’t like the way the extra weight makes me look and feel. I think I am probably not alone in my response to these feelings, in that I tend to wear bigger, baggier clothes, or even sweatpants. There was a time when I would not have been caught dead outside of the house in a pair of sweats, now I don’t even think twice about it.
When I was younger, back in high school and college, I never even thought about my weight. I did, however, think about how I dressed. I didn’t wear dresses, or nylons, or particularly fancy clothes, but I had my own “style”. I’ll admit is was a little out there for Grand Island, NE, where I grew up, but it made me feel cool, and different. Granted these are not unique feelings for someone of that age, but somewhere along the line, I think we forget why they are important. This is a picture of me and my horse lady. I think I’m about 21 or 22. I used to love wearing hats and I never bothered with what anyone else thought about how I looked, but with how my clothes made me feel.
Now that I’m older and my roles have changed; mother, wife, etc., I tend to forget how good special clothes can make me feel. I have been telling myself I’m not going to get any new clothes until I lose the weight, but maybe this is the wrong way to look at things. Having something that fits you well, is bright and or colorful, or just flows really nice can make you feel beautiful and special, no matter what shape you are in at the moment. This, in turn, makes you want to do more things and continue to look and feel better. When I get up in the morning and put on my ball cap and sweats and go down to my studio to work, I know that I won’t be dealing with other people, but I need to remind myself that I’m not (and shouldn’t be) dressing for other people, but for myself.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that I think we need to learn to appreciate ourselves as we are now, not as how we were or might be someday. I’m not suggesting that I stop trying to improve, (I’m going to keep trying to lose weight and get in shape if it kills me) but that I need to learn to be happy with myself as I am. I’m going to make a point of dressing in things that fit better and that make me feel beautiful no matter what size I am, or who can see me, and as I lose the weight, I am going to celebrate the figure I am achieving, even if it isn’t the one that I am ultimately trying to reach. To that end, I am going to wear my coat “A little bit Steampunk” and my hats whenever I feel like it, and not just when I am dressing up for a special event. I like the way the make me feel and everybody deserves to feel beautiful and special, no matter what shape you are in right now. So my challenge to everyone for the week is to find something that makes you feel like a Queen and wear it with style.
P.S. As always, feel free to workout along with me this week. You can find this weeks schedule under tips and tricks.